Did you know that you can build confidence with daily declarations?

If you are a regular reader of this blog, you know I subscribe to the power of positive thinking. Positive thinking will open doors; negative thinking slams them shut.

Focusing on phrases such as: “That was stupid,” “I am so fat,” “No one loves me,” and a host of other negative statements can easily zap the happiness right out of your life.

Positive declarations (also known as affirmations, though there is a slight difference in nuance) can turn your negativity around. Declarations are simply statements or phrases, which focus on the positive rather than the negative.

These mantras can actually reprogram your subconscious thinking and bring you a plethora of good benefits that you’ll enjoy for years to come!

Here are some easy ways to incorporate positive declarations into your life:

1. Declarations should always be in the present tense. Begin your statements with “I can” “I have” or “I am,” instead of a phrase like “I will” or “I may.”

• Examples of this would be “I have a beautiful body” and “I am so intelligent,” instead of “I will never be so stupid again.”
• Choose statements that focus on the positive attributes you want to encourage, saying them as if you already exhibit that behavior.

2. Address yourself by name when expressing your affirmations. Believe it or not, this does make a big difference. When you say: “I, Jane Doe, am a beautiful person both inside and out,” it makes your affirmation more powerful because you hear the lovely sound of your own name!

• Using your name in the declarations allows your subconscious to process the words even quicker.

3. Focus on one or two declarations to start with. Although you possess many positive attributes, it’s best to focus only on one or two when you’re first starting out. If you start with twenty positive declarations, your subconscious may be overwhelmed or dismiss the deeper meaning.

• For example, if you meet someone who goes on and on about how great and beautiful you are, what’s your reaction? Usually after the second or third compliment, you tend to wonder if this person is actually being sincere! The same principal applies to practicing many declarations at once.
• Focus on one or two, and when they’re firmly planted into your subconscious, you can move on to more.

4. Practice your declarations as often as possible. Our subconscious mind is more open to suggestions when we first open our eyes in the morning and then again when we’re ready to fall asleep at night.

• The more often you recite your declarations, the faster you’ll experience lasting changes.

5. Don’t fret if you’re having trouble writing your affirmations. There are many books and self-improvement websites that include hundreds of good, daily declarations. You can then pick out one or two that you’d like to focus on and get started.

• Don’t let something as insignificant as not being able to compose a positive mantra hold you back from making changes and incorporating happiness into your life!

You can boost your confidence and self-esteem with daily declarations and experience the joy of life you’ve been missing. Try it and you’ll love it!

Today’s offerings is short and sweet: I’m attaching Reprogramming-Your-Subconscious-Mind, a free shorty-guide on how to reprogram your subconscious mind.

Yesterday, I spoke briefly about old programs that may be running subconsciously in the back of your brain, and I touched on the power of creating affirmations (or, as T. Harv Eker likes to call them, “Declarations.”)

Today’s shorty guide will give you a more detailed description of how your subconscious works (remember, there have been VOLUMES written on this … this is the STAY-AWAKE while you read version). It will then give you three (3) ways you can consciously alter the subconscious:

1) Environment, which includes positivity and choosing your daily influences

2) Visualization

3) Affirmations

There are also bonus blurbs on Binural Beats (See Thresholds of the Mindby Bill Harris if you really want to know more about this) and Hypnosis.

Yes, each of these topics is HUGE in and of itself. This shorty report I’m attaching is intended as an introduction only. For those of you who are new to this kind of stuff, it will give you enough information to get by conversationally. Hopefully, it will then tweak your interests, and you will explore more. See the books page on this blog for suggested BASIC reading for more detailed stuff.

To your infinite success, my friend!

Britt

Low self esteem is usually a result of self-depreciation: the negative messages you constantly feed yourself, over and over again.These messages may have originated from your parents, your siblings, school-yard bullies, or even your ex-partners. But no matter where they came from, it’s your own dear sweet head replaying these negative messages, the negative thoughts, over and over and over again.

By repeating these negative messages time and time again, they are absorbed by the subconscious. So, it makes sense that feeding your mind more positive messages can make a powerful difference!

Remember, first and foremost, YOU and ONLY you decide what thoughts to dwell on. Sure, thoughts come and go. And yes, they do go too. Just have a “back door” open, thank them for visiting, and see them on their merry way out again.

What stops most people is the uncertainty of what to say, and how to word affirmations for optimal effectiveness.  Below you’ll find some simple tips to help you write effective affirmations for improving your self-esteem.

1)    Present tense.  First, it’s helpful to word affirmations in present tense, not future.  You wouldn’t want to say, “I will learn to love myself” because that makes it sound like you’ll get around to it “someday.”  Instead you could say, “I choose to love myself.”  The wording of that affirmation does two things:  it empowers you with the addition of the words “choose to,” and it puts the timeframe in the present moment.

2)    Believable.  At the same time, your affirmations should be believable to you.  If you tried to say, “I am a wonderful person with a lot to offer the world,” you may not really believe that, so your subconscious mind might reject it.  Instead, try to focus on a process rather than an end result in your affirmations.  Say something like, “I am embrace my uniqueness and share it confidently with others.”

3)    Use the right tone.  When you recite affirmations, you can do so aloud (preferred) or just mentally (only if you must), but you should focus heavily on the TONE you use.  Rather than saying the words without emotion like you were reading a newspaper – really inject an element of love and tenderness into them.  Your subconscious mind picks up on the emotional aspect of what you’re saying more than the actual words.  Imagine the difference between saying the words, “I really love myself” with a tone of love and compassion, or sarcasm.  Which do you think would have a greater impact on your subconscious mind?

4)   Ownership. Make sure the affirmation is about YOU. You canNOT make an affirmation that involves another person’s initiative. As much as I’d love to, the affirmation “My daughter will clean her room every day before she goes to bed at night” will FAIL, because it is NOT in my control.

5)    Repetition.  Once you’ve got some affirmations formed to work on your self-esteem, try saying them several times a day.  Remember, your subconscious mind is constantly playing back old, negative messages – so you want to counteract those as much as possible.  Keep reciting your more positive thoughts on a regular basis – especially when you become aware that you’re thinking negatively about yourself.

6)    Give it time. Finally, remember that it will take time to change those old, negative messages in your mind to something more positive.  It may take a few weeks or even months before you’ll notice an obvious difference in how you feel, and you may be tempted to think it isn’t working.  Keep with it, and you will begin to see a difference eventually!  Most likely it will be a gradual change.  Little by little you’ll start feeling more positive, and notice that you’re feeling a bit happier and lighter.  That’s your signal that it’s working!

To your ultimate success my friend!

Britt Santowski